谈心

I was chatting with an overseas friend last night. We spoke about something I thought, well, I shouldn't really be talking about but I did and I didn't feel awkward about it, strangely. It was an honest and open chat which I'd much prefer. No guesswork. It was just free flow. And no, this person is not a close friend. Surprisingly.

Instead, friends whom I've known for a while can't even communicate with me on that level. It's hard to find someone whom you can have a heart-to-heart talk, someone you can be completely at ease with, honest to, direct with and feel comfortable enough to cry in front of and without permission, use his/her shoulder to bawl on. I think there is only one friend so far who has seen me cry (of course, movie weeping excluded).

希望能找到最珍惜我的快乐伤心的人。

Humans are complex.

My daily horoscope says:

You've recently made a discovery that a certain friend isn't what he or she seems. Resist the urge to drop your buddy like a bad habit. We all have multiple personas that appear with family members but not friends, or at work but not on dates. Humans are complex, so don't judge too harshly.

Humans are complex indeed. But how complex is complex? Sometimes, I can never fathom what goes on inside some of my friends' heads. Sometimes, I wonder, are some people really my friends? I'm beginning to doubt.

I really don't enjoy guessing when it comes to humans. I mentioned before - work does not stress me, it's the humans. Guessing is just too tedious, too emotionally draining. Whenever I'm not sure - I tend to take the answer as no. So if you have a point to put across, give it to me in black and white.

Speaking of complexity - Avril Lavigne is coming to town. I remember her complicated song.

Am I harsh? Do I judge? I dunno. Maybe?

红蜻蜓

再次见到老朋友，有说不出的喜悦和说不上的感动。一转眼，相识也有23年了。那时，我们才7岁。好不可思议的旅程。

从天真无邪，无忧无虑，到成长经历的酸甜苦辣。从相聚到离别，再相聚。

我们都已经长大，好多梦正在飞。

就像童年看到的红色的蜻蜓。:)

The Friendship Factor

This morning, I was up relatively early (compared to the usual) and continued with Jul 08 issue of Vanilla. The theme this month is on friendship and happiness. I'll start my thoughts on friendship first.

People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. But what each leaves behind is an indelible mark that forever changes us.

People walk in and out of our lives. Some touch it for a moment and are gone. Some stay for a while, and teaches us precious lessons about living and loving, then they too quietly fade from our day-to-day. And then, there are the relationships that we know will last a lifetime. The influence of these people permeates every facet of our lives, and the lessons we learn from them we apply to every other relationship in our lives.

Friends are people who bring out the best in us, who are our safety nets when we fall, our cave of solace when we need to retreat from the world for a while, our ticket to new adventures, and our doors to worlds beyond our own.

To those who knows me well - I cherish true friendship. Friendship is important to me. So important I am not just friends with anyone. Any other people not classified as friends fall into the acquaintances category. Basically, acquaintances are people I know, on a skin-deep level. Only real friends have the privileged capability of upsetting me - and that's because I care. I make it a point to remember their birthdays, the things they like, their dreams, their happiness, their sorrows, their fears, their secrets - as long as they are willing to share with me.

I think I'm an open book. It's not that difficult to know me. I'm pretty expressive - I don't hide my feelings too much (although there are some I do). I like to exchange perspectives. This blog captures most of my perspectives, feelings and thoughts - that is, if you take time to read. When I'm upset or restless, it's easy to tell - I become a quieter person. I prefer not to kick a fuss. So the easiest way is to ignore.

From time to time, I strike certain friends off the list. Why? Because I feel they are no longer worthy of my true affection and concern. In a true friendship, we are free to have our own opinions (and never impose) - we do not have to agree on everything and like the same things, we respect each other's individuality, we are not afraid to show our weaknesses and display our strengths, we are honest in pointing out what we feel is not good for each other, we encourage each other to go for our dreams, we remind each other that it is no big deal to fail, it is ok to cry, we want each other to be happy, and we find time for each other - we make it a point to stay connected (distance is not an excuse).

This is also why it is vital that the soulmate I'm still waiting for, should also be my best friend. And this best friend, is forever. =)

A friend knows the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails. - Donna Roberts

What's a true friend?

Some friends, you thought were true but maybe, they are not so true afterall. So, what really defines a true friend?

I have recently been enlightened - some friends may not deserve my friendship afterall, even those I know for more than two decades. I hate it when they appear for a reason, like perhaps they have an invite to send or when they need help. I have decided that such friends will be struck off my list, for good.

Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light. - Helen Keller

Surprised!

很久没有这样被感动了。

十六朵带着浓浓友谊的玫瑰，温馨与完美地结束了我三十岁的宣言。

生命第二章开始了！生命里会不会有“Mr. Aidan Shaw”，就随缘。重要的是 - 我要活得开心，活得精彩。

分享

“时间以做了选择，什么人叫做朋友。偶尔碰头，心情却能一点就通。”

很庆幸我的生命里也有这样我可以分享心曲的朋友。

钟少，谢谢你的“命里有时终须有，命里无时莫强求。”



友谊万岁！:-)

知心

知心:<名>互相了解的，感情深厚的朋友。

能有知心的朋友是一种福气 - 要珍惜。

好喜欢这首歌曲。

谈心 蔡淳佳/游鸿明

女: 每一天 我睁开眼睛 看着窗外的天气 都会问自己 Wooh

我最关心的你会在哪里 是不是也睡醒 有没有好心情 Wooh

*男: 每一次 我沮丧不已 心中复杂的情绪 你总能分析 Wooh

合: 就算我沉默不语也相信 彼此会有默契

#女: 告诉我 什么事让你开心 谁让你烦心 让我来抚平

男: 有些话 放在心里心有灵犀 不需要原因 我就能感应

#合: 能和知心朋友一起谈心

男: 不在乎主题

女: 感觉永远历久弥新

合: 我明白全世界只有你 最珍惜我的快乐伤心

*Repeat * #

合: 好想天天这样和你谈心

男: 不在乎主题

女: 感觉永远历久弥新

合: 我明白全世界只有你 最珍惜我的快乐伤心